YOU’RE NOT ALONE: Choosing To Love Those Who Treat Us Badly

What happens when you come across someone implicitly rude, so indifferent in character, and just plain ill-mannered, someone who stands in the middle of extremes, far too demeaning and philanthropic by nature, but wedges closer to the former? Reasonably in essence, tendency is, we react just as spitefully but more so aggravatingly; we act in revenge, possibly holding our chins up, rolling our eyes, darting belittling stares, assessing the narrative's antagonist from head to toe, showing them who's boss, who's superior, who's presence should've been exalted, all from which the very principle of "do unto others what you want others to do unto you" comes forth. We've ingrained a kind of mindset that tolerates a vengeful attitude in response to defending ourselves; we tell, much so convince, ourselves, "Well, she started it, she was being disrespectful first. I have every right to act just as disrespectful because I'm only defending myself." It's normal to act that way, everybody does it, BUT WE'RE NOT CALLED TO BE NORMAL, WE'RE NOT PLACED IN THIS WORLD TO BE LIKE EVERYBODY ELSE. WE'RE CATALYSTS FOR CHANGE, WE'RE HERE TO BE DIFFERENT, WE'RE HERE TO MAKE A CHANGE. And loving the unlovable is that change.

And it's not easy, saying a compliment to a restaurant server who deliberately ignores your request is not easy, believing the best in a friend who backstabs you is not easy, smiling at a cab driver who's been giving you death stares for overtaking is not easy. In fact, loving the unlovable might just be one of the toughest, if not the toughest, languages of love, but you know what? Greatness isn't easy, selflessness isn't easy. If it were, then everybody who ever lived was and would be great.



Short story: we have this house help that's insanely prudent, she wears the same monotonous frown day after day, she rudely refuses to help me when I ask her to (note: i ask her politely and with a smile), she screams at me when I get the room all messy, and to say it bluntly, she's disrespectful, she's unnerving and temperamental. Her coworkers even went to the extents of quitting in order to avoid anymore unnecessary conflict and unwanted stress. And to be honest, there were times when I wanted to fight back, and there were times when I did (HEHEHE! I'm not proud of it), but one day, I decided, emphasis on decided, to love her. More than feelings, loving is a choice; a choice to be patient, to be kind, to be gentle, to understand even when your feelings are telling you otherwise. I say sorry when I don't want to, I give her things that remind me of her and things of necessity to her, I often treat her with ice cream or soda, I made it a point to hug her everyday and tell her "LABYUUUUU" in the most "malambing" way; and eventually she started opening up to me, and only later did I realize that so many problems have been weighing her down, causing her to act the way she does. She has her own battles to fight and being hostile is her way of self defense. And if you think about it, almost all people showcasing a negative attitude roots down to the same cause. Anyway, from that moment on, she started to laugh at my jokes, she's become vulnerable, more open, and she's truly become a part of the family 🙂


To end, here's an excerpt from Joyce Meyer's devotional messages,
"If someone knows full well she has done us wrong, and we return her evil with good, it begins to tear down the walls she has built around herself. Sooner or later she will begin to trust us and start learning from us what real love is."


I LOVE YOU GUYS!!!

YOU’RE NOT ALONE: When You Want to Rekindle Your Relationship With God But Don’t Know Where to Start

Spiritual drought, spiritual thirst, actual drought, actual thirst -- both much allegorical to abandonment in a barren wasteland, sans appearances of an oasis and moisture relief from succulents yet likely of its deceptive counterpart that are temporal mirages, so much so leaves one with none other than endless, wayward trudges into absolute nothingness. Illusions and temporary pleasure, mirages per se, come as aversion to distract wanderers from their established sense of direction; the desert in itself eliminates all but a journey of aimlessness and nulls, provided that not a single droplet or ounce of vital existential necessity be found; and the most picturesque yet plausibly the loneliest of sceneries showcases a few stumbling tumbleweeds, boulders banked under layers of more impenetrable grays, and grains of musky browns consolidated to what seems as if an outpour overflowing into the horizon -- this is an exact imagery of what it feels to be drifted apart from God; a fifth actually, with the rest equating to four more times the burden.

[pullquote width="300" float="right"]when nothing's going right with God, nothing's going right at all[/pullquote]
 

We've all been there; you and me. We've all experienced unequivocal joy and the beauty of its permanence during seasons of constant communication with God, of delighting in worship and Bible studies, and of love flowing in and affecting many, in other words, of our cups running over, but we've also experienced the unanticipated downfall of all the aforementioned glories, of drifting apart from God, of no longer being in touch with Him. "Oh how the tables have turned," my brain might have said -- pangs of emptiness and utter loneliness kiss me goodnight and greet me good morning, and at any time of day for that matter, as it abruptly halts fun, humorous moments to a stop, nudging me to attend to an unfinished business I've long been ignoring.


Spiritual dryness is like a whirlwind, cursed into a circular cycle. It leaves the question, "How can I rekindle my relationship with God when nothing's going right?" But at the same time, it also asks, "How can anything go right if I'm not in this together with God?" It leaves me nothing but feeling uneasy, unappeased, as though something bad were to happen anytime soon, as though everything isn't working out the way it ought to (when in fact it actually is from bird's eye view), and as though the whole world, friends and family included, is scheming a manipulative plan of pushing me to the brink of executing my own death, as if the ones I love have either replaced me or is totally oblivious to my existence. Purpose-wise and career-wise, my sense of motivation and persistence comes down to imposed procrastination, idling with Netflix's marathon-worthy releases and lounging all day in the confines of my comforter, feeling the least bit guilty. And speaking of guilt, that too has been washed down the drain; during seasons of drought, I become insusceptible to whether I hurt someone or not, I'm apathetic to what I do and its consequences to those around me, to put it simply, I've lost all concern about anyone, everyone, but one -- me. Morality, passion, relationships, emotional stability: when nothing's going right with God, nothing's going right at all -- a domino effect in all its inevitability. But at what purpose? At what cost?


Possibly to push us into restoring what once was, possibly to reignite the fire that was once was God's. But then again, why do we have to wait until push comes to shove? Why do we have to wait for something bad to happen to finally start rekindling our relationship with God? With waiting, we agree to becoming complacent with neutrality, neither happy nor sad; we stay in a state of lukewarmness, of apathy (as previously mentioned), and that I think is even worse than crying bucketloads of tears or experiencing situational depression. [pullquote width="300" float="right"]Why do we have to wait for something bad to happen to finally start rekindling our relationship with God? [/pullquote] But more often than not, convictions of wanting to rekindle my relationship with God comes into motion but an overwhelming opposition negates it. Where do I start? How do I even begin renewing my faith? Do I actually want to or should I just wait a little longer?


Brief intermission: the reason why I started writing this whole post was predominantly because I lost touch with God; I didn't know what to do, where to begin, how to even start. Though try as I remained transfixed on reading nightly devotional messages and talking to Him on a daily, it still wasn't exactly what I'd call sincere and heartfelt, merely a lost cause of accustomed practices and habits, done out of a fixed disposition. But with the help of my two friends, meditation and reflection, I came to realize that..


 Often overlooked, the tangible, nonspiritual relationships we have (i.e. mother-to-daughter, friend-to-friend) is parallel to a relationship with God, be it yet nurturing or already mature. And like all relationships, when faced with affliction in need of remedy, the best resolution there is, is time -- the giving of time. Not in the sense of giving space to the afflicted as consolation to regain levelheadedness but rather in the sense of making time for one another, sacrificing a set agenda and surrendering time, completely letting it takes its course, undisturbed and focused. With God, the same applies. We need to give Him our time and to allot time for Him with no time limits or set alarms attached. Through that, we are able to openly express what's going on with our lives, the good and the bad, what we feel, what went wrong, what we're sorry for, what it is that's troubling us, what our predicaments are, what we are at the brink of committing, and what we ultimately want as a result -- exactly how we would a friend. We become vulnerable and dependent to God once again, finally restoring what was. [pullquote width="300" float="left"]the best resolution there is, is time -- the giving of time[/pullquote]


All relationships are different, but spending time together, making time for one another, is the very essence of a relationship; it was initially through time, through spending and making time, that relationships begin to cultivate (e.g. acquaintances to becoming best friends) and it is also through time that relationships would mend and continually grow. It sounds so simple and not at all complex, but it's often overlooked. And hopefully, just as I was reminded, I pray the same for you. 🙂 may your life be filled with so much positivity and joy that it would overflow and eventually affect others!!!


James 4:8 "Come close to God, and God will come close to you."


On a last note, if you ever need someone to talk to, just like it is on the title, you are not alone, I'm with you as I'm sure a lot of people are. Don't hesitate to shoot me a message on my social platforms if you ever wanna vent or cry your heart out! I'm here for you! 🙂


#BraveTheCity With Urbanize

As far as blog events go, developing eventual relationships level as primary inclination for attending said gatherings. Most organizers provide a very fast- paced, straight-to-the-point set up, but there are also some brands who chose to have closer-knit, let's-sit-down- and-talk type of get-togethers. This is the kind of event that I attended a few weeks ago, mounted by Urbanize. It was an intimate gathering, and because of that I've made some friends in the process of collective attendance, most of whom are the most genuine, most supportive, and most thoughtful people I know.

 

 

In the #BraveTheCity event, I have made friends – and our communication bounds aren't relative to flat- laying, instagramming, and blogging alone. It reaches far and wide, to binge-eating, to talking about all things under the sun, to venting out personal struggles, to genuinely candid laughing moments (and not the staged version usually seen in feeds), and to traveling (if sponsorships permit, HAHA!).


 Speaking of traveling, the event made me reflect on how I “braved the different cities” that I visited for the first time. I did a little reflecting myself as they've actually incorporated a short inspirational segment into the program with one of the Philippines' top urban photographers. The general spiel of the session was how photography changed his life, and how he bravely faced the challenges laid out by his chosen profession.

Looking back, when my family and I #BraveTheCity on our trips abroad, it always helps that you are equipped with the right gear. From journeying through one too many stops, and one too many switching stations on the train ride to a chosen tourist destination, walking a minimum of fifteen blocks just to get decent food and not barely-filling, convenience store garb, and frantically going up an alley and down a curb and back again as we find ourselves lost in the middle of the city (and don't get me started on interracial language barriers!), I'd definitely rely on Urbanize to satisfy my every whim.


 Plus, their products are as manageable and foolproof as they are fashion forward! A definite necessity for the modern dapper and the she-dapper to #BraveTheCity! And now, all I'm waiting for is to sing, "All my Urbanize bags and jugs are ready to go," in tune of John Denver's very glorified hit "I'm Leaving on a Jetplane" HEEHEEHEE!

 

So girlies! If you're going out of the country but find yourselves bewildered as if there's something you might be forgetting to pack in your luggages, VISIT URBANIZE!!!

Here are their branches:

Urbanize Gateway

3/F Araneta Center, Cubao, Quezon City

Urbanize Shangri-la

5/F East Wing, Edsa corner Shaw Boulevard, Mandaluyong City

U.P. Town Center

2/F Ph1B , Katipunan Avenue, Loyola Heights, Diliman Quezon City

Solenad Nuvali

Ground Floor GFR-10 Building D, Nuvali, Sta. Rosa, Laguna

Glorietta 3

2/F, Ayala Center, Ayala Avenue cor. Pasay Road, Makati Avenue and EDSA, Makati City

Uptown Mall BGC

3/F Uptown Place Mall, Bonifacio Global City, Taguig

Alabang Town Center

2nd Level New Wing Alabang Town Center Zapote, Alabang

Serin

1F-46 , Aguinaldo Highway, Brgy. Maharlika East, Tagaytay City, Cavite

The District

Ground Floor Unit 149, Aguinaldo Highway cor. Daang Hari Road, Brgy. Anabu 2 - D Imus City, Cavite

Kiss & Fly

Departure Level, NAIA Terminal 3, Pasay

The 30th Mall

Unit 2007, 2/F Ayala Malls The 30th, Meralco Ave. Shaw, Pasig City

Venice

2nd Flr. B157, Venice Grand Canal, Mckinley Hill, Brgy. Pinagsama, Taguig City

How I Found My True Match

I'm not at all a makeup junkie so I know a lot less about cosmetics as compared to most, but coming from someone who only takes as much info as results show, I'd have to say, L'oreal's True Match liquid foundation might just be the best among all I've tried. I've only tried around four makeup bases my whole life, but that still accounts for something, right? HAHAHA!" -- what I wrote as an Instagram caption days after trying said product.
And if there's one thing about me I haven't explicitly pointed out when I do product reviews here on my blog or social media caption spiels, it's that I selectively segregate positive product features and accentuate on said ideals, without underlying or tacitly assumed negatives as most commercial ads implicitly do (i.e. Infomercials, disclaimers written in size 2 fonts); in layman's terms, I'm not biased and I'm a hundred percent honest with you guys! 🙂 I absolutely meant it when I said, "L'oreal's True Match liquid foundation might just be the best among all I've tried!" I haven't tried its concealer complement yet, as my mom advised, more so nagged, my sisters and I to finish every makeup bottle we own to the last drop before opening another; but if I finally get around to trying it, I'll be sure to let you guys know again!
So much thanks to BeautyMNL for being my wing-cosmetic-store (get it? HEEHEEHEE) and introducing me my true match! 🙂
If you guys are interested to find your true match and saying bye to your single years forever (but hey, nothing bad with being single, right? SHOUTOUT TO MY SINGLE SISTERS!!!!! HAHAHA!), here are the links for the products:
L'oreal True Match Liquid Foundation (in shade F2): https://beautymnl.com/products/5559-true-match-liquid-foundation
L'oreal True Match Liquid Concealer: https://beautymnl.com/products/4265-true-match-concealer
Here are photos of me wearing aforementioned foundation! (I personally think it provides an adequate supply of coverage with only a single pump!)  

Calling All My Oily-Prone Skinned Girlies!

I need not emphasize on or narrate, in a descriptive manner, about the current state of Philippine temperature as we've all experienced what it means when I say the former, but I'm still going to blab about it anyway! HAHA! Manila weather is undeniably of fluctuating nature, and this is not to speak of intense frigidity to its opposite of a forty-degree Celsius extremity, but rather ranges from scorching heat to an even more maximal extreme of a counterpart.

Known all too well by Filipinas, the heat's a dominating, contributing factor for all the sweat shed right after a cold shower, acnes on oil-sensitive skins, and to top it all off, physical exhaustion, energy level drainage, and eventual dehydration; and this is where Maybelline's White Superfresh Powder Foundation comes into the picture! Although it cancels off solutions for predicaments in the latter part of the statement, which goes without saying is a liability on our part, not so much a prerogative but a duty, seeing as we ought to help ourselves in issues relating to individual wellness (e.g. rehydrate, corrective actions), said Maybelline product relieves of acne, dreaded SULA (Sweaty Upper Lip Alert) moments, and unnecessary excretion of facial oil. At least we look good, right? HAHAHA!
But technicalities aside, as tried as it is approved, Maybelline's White Superfresh is, in all honesty, the missing piece of the beauty puzzle for oily-prone skin type ladies! Trust me on this! I actually have dry skin, but I used the powder foundation in areas where oil tends to subdue -- and it works PERFECT!