And it's not easy, saying a compliment to a restaurant server who deliberately ignores your request is not easy, believing the best in a friend who backstabs you is not easy, smiling at a cab driver who's been giving you death stares for overtaking is not easy. In fact, loving the unlovable might just be one of the toughest, if not the toughest, languages of love, but you know what? Greatness isn't easy, selflessness isn't easy. If it were, then everybody who ever lived was and would be great.
Short story: we have this house help that's insanely prudent, she wears the same monotonous frown day after day, she rudely refuses to help me when I ask her to (note: i ask her politely and with a smile), she screams at me when I get the room all messy, and to say it bluntly, she's disrespectful, she's unnerving and temperamental. Her coworkers even went to the extents of quitting in order to avoid anymore unnecessary conflict and unwanted stress. And to be honest, there were times when I wanted to fight back, and there were times when I did (HEHEHE! I'm not proud of it), but one day, I decided, emphasis on decided, to love her. More than feelings, loving is a choice; a choice to be patient, to be kind, to be gentle, to understand even when your feelings are telling you otherwise. I say sorry when I don't want to, I give her things that remind me of her and things of necessity to her, I often treat her with ice cream or soda, I made it a point to hug her everyday and tell her "LABYUUUUU" in the most "malambing" way; and eventually she started opening up to me, and only later did I realize that so many problems have been weighing her down, causing her to act the way she does. She has her own battles to fight and being hostile is her way of self defense. And if you think about it, almost all people showcasing a negative attitude roots down to the same cause. Anyway, from that moment on, she started to laugh at my jokes, she's become vulnerable, more open, and she's truly become a part of the family 🙂
To end, here's an excerpt from Joyce Meyer's devotional messages,
"If someone knows full well she has done us wrong, and we return her evil with good, it begins to tear down the walls she has built around herself. Sooner or later she will begin to trust us and start learning from us what real love is."
I LOVE YOU GUYS!!!